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1  Non-Gaming / Trading Forum / Re: LF: Club Nintendo codes on: February 08, 2015, 05:13:23 AM
It's working now. Give it another shot.
2  Non-Gaming / Trading Forum / LF: Club Nintendo codes on: February 08, 2015, 01:29:27 AM
With Club Nintendo wrapping up, I'm looking to see if anyone has any Club Nintendo codes they haven't used or have no desire to use. I can't really offer anything for them, but it'd be nice if they didn't go to waste. Heck, I can even redeem them for you and then give you a game code if you don't have an account. I just need 20 points for something I want, so hit me up.
3  Non-Gaming / Off-Topic / Re: Relationship Help on: January 11, 2015, 06:51:56 PM
Well, let me back up for a moment. The religion change isn't as simple as "We were both Catholic, now I'm Lutheran." We were Jehovah's Witnesses, and all of my friends were Jehovah's Witnesses. It's a cult, which I never realized until this past year. For those not in the know, the JWs demand FULL obedience to everything they teach. No questioning, no talkback. Just do what we say.

Well, one of their main teachings is that if you ARE a JW and you LEAVE the JWs, everyone who still IS a JW must shun you. That includes family. Now, that doesn't include people still living in your house, like my wife. However it DOES include HER immediate family and all of my friends. Also, if you're a JW, you're not allowed to hang out with people who aren't JWs in general.

So, my life, by definition, has to be completely separate from hers unless she quits the cult. She won't quit. She loves it too much.

On top of that, earlier this year I was going to try and gently fade and leave it. I had a lot on my mind, since I learned that everything I had been taught from childhood was wrong. I knew how it felt to be part of the Nazi party in Germany (Godwin'd!), because I kept asking myself, "How did I fall for this? How could I have been so weak?" My wife saw that something was wrong, and asked me, and I told her a little bit. I didn't give her the whole story because I didn't want to drag her out of the thing either. (One thing I learned about cults through all this is that you can't wake someone up unless they WANT to be. Otherwise, the process is extremely traumatic.)

Well, she started snooping. She read my Facebook messages where I reached out to my sister who had left a few years ago and friends that had left too. She read my emails. Then, she told the elders of the congregation about it before talking to me. That resulted in me getting cut off from everyone. She still doesn't understand why that was wrong of her to do, despite repeated attempts to explain it to her.

We've tried, over the years, to find other activities that we have in common, to make the Venn diagram of our lives overlap better. We tried tennis, exercizing, video games, board games, none of them worked. When we're at home we sit around and watch the same few TV series that she thinks are appropriate (30 Rock, Malcolm in the Middle, and Scrubs) or other shows that I have to prescreen to make sure there's no offensive content that would bother her. (Breaking Bad is right out.)

The only thing we have in common at this point, after 11 fucking years of marriage, is that we love our child. That's it. As far as how he should be raised, though, we differ. I want him to be the hell away from the Witnesses. I've taken him to birthday parties, Thanksgiving and Christmases. My wife hates that and gets weepy every time I talk about it. She wants him to be a good little JW, not thinking, just obeying.

Also, ATB, the Jesus suggestion is great, for me! I believe in Jesus! I pray to him on the regular. I don't necessarily UNDERSTAND it, but I do. She, however, would never, ever in a million years pray to Jesus because it's a sin to do so. So there we sit again: On opposite sides of a fence.

So, I kind of made my decision, sadly. We could conceivably stay together if we bother decide to never talk about anything that's truly important and keep our relationship superficial. We did for the last six months or so. That's not how I want to live, though. I don't want to be with a clone of myself, and I know marriage and relationships take a lot of work. But when there's nothing there, what else can you do but cut your losses?
4  Non-Gaming / Off-Topic / Relationship Help on: January 01, 2015, 04:48:39 PM
So my marriage is on the rocks. We've been married 11 years now, and I've realized a few things:

1) The only reason we ended up together is because I pitied her when we met because she had a bad father growing up.
2) Also, we were in the same religion. Now I no longer am.

That's pretty much all we had in common.

However, we have a child, and after I told her that I wasn't in love with her and realized that I never really was, she found out that she's pregnant. For real, I saw the pregnancy test and everything. So, now I have a problem.

Here's what I want to know: Those of you who've had relationships that have lasted a while, have you ever gone through this? Is this a failing on my part? Am I a shithead for even considering leaving, especially considering the circumstances? I love my child more than anything, and I don't want to feel like I'm abandoning him.

Shit, what do I do?
5  Non-Gaming / Off-Topic / Re: My favorite cat in the world is dead on: January 01, 2015, 04:44:00 PM
Aw man, I'm sorry to hear that! I lost a pet this past year and still cry sometimes.
6  Gaming / Console / PC Gaming / Re: [WiiU] Super Smash Bros. on: December 16, 2014, 02:34:54 AM
I found an incredibly cheap way to rack up some kills on Cruel Smash. Pick Marth/Ike/Little Mac. Use Down+B repeatedly. Since the computer players are relentless and never stop attacking, you'll kill a bunch of them quickly. I killed 4 when my previous best was 0. In ANY previous Smash Bros. game.
7  Non-Gaming / Off-Topic / Re: SLEATER-KINNEY IS BACK on: October 20, 2014, 07:42:03 PM

Quote from: Scraper on October 20, 2014, 05:58:26 PM

Am I lame for not knowing who they are?

Nahhhh. They were a bit of an acquired taste, but once you've acquired it, boy howdy were/are they awesome.
8  Non-Gaming / Off-Topic / SLEATER-KINNEY IS BACK on: October 20, 2014, 05:43:44 PM
OMG OMG OMG Sleater-Kinney reunited and they're releasing an album and they're doing shows!

9  Gaming / Portable Gaming & Apps / Re: Theatrhythm Final Fantasy: Curtain Call on: October 08, 2014, 03:04:47 PM
I loved Theatrhythm, but I've been hesitant to play this one. I got tired of just running through the same songs over and over again (unless I wanted to buy the DLC, of course!) without any sense of continual progression. I know you said they improved that, but in what way?
10  Non-Gaming / Political / Religious Nonsense / Re: Crisis of faith or is it over? on: October 06, 2014, 06:37:06 PM
I'm in a similar boat. I don't know if God exists, and frankly, even if he/she/whatever the fuck does, it doesn't change how I'm going to live my life: Be a good person, help others, raise my children right. If that's not good enough for Floaty Space Guy, then he can suck my dick.

Wow, that turned out more profane than a normal religious comment should, I think.
11  Non-Gaming / Off-Topic / Re: We lost a forumer last night :( on: October 06, 2014, 06:32:31 PM
Oh, man, that sucks. RIP, dude.
12  Gaming / Portable Gaming & Apps / Re: Smash Bros. 3DS on: October 04, 2014, 02:43:55 PM
Little Mac is a goddamn beast.
13  Gaming / Portable Gaming & Apps / Re: Smash Bros. 3DS on: September 11, 2014, 01:50:32 PM

Quote from: Bullwinkle on September 11, 2014, 11:33:27 AM

I didn't say I didn't have a right stick, just that I don't remember using it.

Ahh. IIRC, right stick was for smash attacks, but I'm not sure.
14  Non-Gaming / Off-Topic / Re: One of my dogs died suddenly today. on: September 10, 2014, 09:20:19 PM

Quote from: Drazzil on September 09, 2014, 02:25:50 PM

Sorry about your dog. You're having a timultious month aren't you?

Yeah, little bit. Things are kind of piling up, but it'll work itself out eventually.
15  Gaming / Portable Gaming & Apps / Re: Smash Bros. 3DS on: September 10, 2014, 09:12:45 PM
You never used the Gamecube controller? What kind of sick freak are you?
16  Non-Gaming / Political / Religious Nonsense / Re: I'm a former Jehovah's Witness, AMA! on: September 10, 2014, 09:10:57 PM

Quote from: Purge on September 10, 2014, 03:20:19 PM

Since this is an AMA, Eel Snave, are you going to switch your moniker to Lee Evans, as you are no longer backwards? slywink

Nice! You are funny guy!

asshole smile
17  Non-Gaming / Political / Religious Nonsense / Re: I'm a former Jehovah's Witness, AMA! on: September 10, 2014, 02:51:31 PM
And ATB, I can totally agree with you on that front. Once I was out, I realized, "Holy shit, JWs are the Pharisees!" It all makes sense: The Pharisees called people "am'haarets" or "people of the earth." Witnesses call non-JW's "worldly people". The Pharisees had people doing crazy things like washing up to the elbows. JWs have crazy restrictions on random crap.

That being said, I think there are a lot of sincere people in the rank and file who I would classify as Christians. If they weren't stuck with the crazy mind-control that the JW leadership exerts, they would be just like anyone else. I can't fault them for doing what they do, even when it comes to shunning and other more extreme parts of the belief system.
18  Non-Gaming / Political / Religious Nonsense / Re: I'm a former Jehovah's Witness, AMA! on: September 09, 2014, 07:42:18 PM

Quote from: ATB on September 09, 2014, 07:23:00 PM

Quote from: Drazzil on September 09, 2014, 02:21:15 PM

The JW's are sort of the fascists of the Christian faith

JWs are not Christians just as Mormons are not Christians.

Well, in the sense that they believe in Christ and put what they believe to be faith in him, they are Christians. They're an offshoot of Christianity for sure. If that's the definition of Christianity, then they are. They're just a wildly wrong sect of it that ends up being harmful, but I wouldn't go far so as to say they're not "Christian."
19  Non-Gaming / Political / Religious Nonsense / Re: I'm a former Jehovah's Witness, AMA! on: September 09, 2014, 02:31:15 PM
Oh, yeah, I've been "baptized" for 20 years, in for 30. I was born and raised and about as loyal as you could find. I bought into EVERYTHING. The shunning has already started, since no Witness has spoken with me in about two months except for elders trying to "help."

Even with the entire disintegration of my social network (not like Facebook, I mean the people I've known and loved, laughed and cried with years) and knowing full well what's coming, I still don't give a shit. I can't believe something so false and damaging anymore. My wife asked if I would ever come back, and I told her that if I ever came back she would know that I've completely and totally given up on life.
20  Non-Gaming / Hardware / Software Hell / Re: Headsets on: September 09, 2014, 01:27:28 AM
I was an idiot. I plugged this into the right jack, set everything right and now it works just fine. This is because I am a moron who shouldn't be trusted with anything more complicated than a shoe.
21  Gaming / Portable Gaming & Apps / Smash Bros. 3DS on: September 09, 2014, 01:26:42 AM
There's no thread for this! FOR SHAME!

I can't wait for October. I was thiiiiiis close to taking a day off of work for it.
22  Non-Gaming / Hardware / Software Hell / Best software for recording gameplay? on: September 07, 2014, 11:08:44 PM
I'm trying to find a low-cost solution for recording gameplay. I want something I can toggle on and off manually, and Fraps isn't quite what I'm looking for. Any other suggestions?
23  Non-Gaming / Political / Religious Nonsense / Re: I'm a former Jehovah's Witness, AMA! on: September 07, 2014, 10:55:04 PM
DRAZZ! Haven't seen you in ages! You're ex-JW?
24  Gaming / Portable Gaming & Apps / Re: NEW 3DS and XL on: September 06, 2014, 02:03:36 PM
I'm irrationally excited for this. I've played Xenoblade for about 200 hours and I'm probably going to go back to the well AGAIN for this. I hope there's new content included.
25  Non-Gaming / Off-Topic / Re: Doctor Who 8th Series - Goodbye Matt, Hello Peter! on: September 02, 2014, 02:01:49 AM
Martha had a few good stories in her run, but as a companion? Bleck. Her only character arc was "I think the Doctor's dreamy," and that's it.
26  Non-Gaming / Off-Topic / Re: Doctor Who 8th Series - Goodbye Matt, Hello Peter! on: September 01, 2014, 01:13:06 AM

Quote from: Bullwinkle on August 26, 2014, 02:06:04 AM

On that, I will make a bold prediction here: This is all leading to the return of the Doctor Donna.  This hunch occurred to me before the season started, and little signs in the episode were certainly pointing that way, if only because Donna was the companion in the Pompeii episode (in which "that face" appeared, of course).

Oh, man, I would love that. I know it's sacrilege, but Donna is my favorite NuWho companion.
27  Non-Gaming / Hardware / Software Hell / Re: Headsets on: August 31, 2014, 10:01:57 PM
Weird... I tested the headset with a different computer and the sound is fine. I wonder if there's something with my sound card. My speakers are fine though. Curiouser and curiouser...
28  Non-Gaming / Hardware / Software Hell / Headsets on: August 28, 2014, 11:59:11 PM
I bought a $15 Logitech headset the other day, and it's TERRIBLE. It hums, pops and picks up terribly, even when the mike is practically in my mouth. Is it a technical problem with the headset or a problem with trying to get too cheap of a headset?
29  Non-Gaming / Off-Topic / Re: Go to a mirror. Look into it. Inhale deeply through only your nose. on: August 24, 2014, 10:03:57 PM
No one here took acid. See, I made an animated gif of me inhaling through my nose, and you'll see what I'm talking about:

Spoiler for Hiden:
30  Non-Gaming / Off-Topic / Re: One of my dogs died suddenly today. on: August 24, 2014, 02:52:17 AM

Quote from: Lee on August 23, 2014, 11:28:13 PM

That's horrible. Does the vet have any idea what it could have been?

No, we didn't even take him to the vet. He died at home, and he died so quickly we didn't have time to take him. Just a few breaths and he was gone.
31  Non-Gaming / Off-Topic / One of my dogs died suddenly today. on: August 23, 2014, 08:04:51 PM
He was only 6. He wasn't sick at all beforehand. I miss him terribly.

32  Non-Gaming / Political / Religious Nonsense / Re: I'm a former Jehovah's Witness, AMA! on: August 22, 2014, 02:53:26 PM

Quote from: Scraper on August 20, 2014, 05:40:16 PM

Lee how is your family treating you at this point?

You should ask him. smile

Nah, at this point I haven't formally declared that I'm out, so it's kind of a weird situation. Most of my family never was JW, so they're thrilled. My mom is, and she had a conniption fit when I told her. However, since I'm not officially out, she's still talking to me. I know she'll stop once I quit.

My wife is still a JW, and while she's horribly disappointed, she's still being as supportive as she can. I'm not sure if she's questioning things or not... she called me "birthday boy" today, which was weird.
33  Non-Gaming / Political / Religious Nonsense / Re: I'm a former Jehovah's Witness, AMA! on: August 20, 2014, 02:57:40 PM

Quote from: Z-Corn on August 20, 2014, 12:44:03 PM

Is it true that JW's believe only 144,000 souls get to go to heaven?

If so, didn't they hit that number a long time ago?

Yes and yes. However, they believe there are two "classes," one a heavenly class and one an earthly class. The heavenly class is only 144,000, and the rest will live forever on Earth.

There's some talk that they're going to announce that the 144,000 number was always supposed to be figurative, though. Basically, a couple of years ago they happened to say that maybe there are NEW people being added to the 144,000, and lo and behold a bunch of people all of a sudden started believing they were going to heaven! WHAT A CONCEPT! So now the number of people who profess that belief is going up, and they're probably going to have to say that the number was figurative all along.

HOWEVER, since the "144,000" was always the ruling class, how can the church rulers keep their power? Simple! They've now changed the doctrine to state that the only ones who can provide their special brand of "spiritual food" are... the church rulers.

Pure control. If you were at all interested about what they have to believe and were thinking of listening to them, stay far far away. Better yet, if a JW comes to your door, just ask them why they were a part of the UN for 10 years. That should get them thinking.
34  Gaming / Console / PC Gaming / Re: If you want to be scared sh$tless, play PT, the playable teaser for Silent Hills on: August 18, 2014, 03:12:00 AM
Uh, I just watched a video. I got to the

Spoiler for Hiden:
Creepy baby in the sink

and I NOPE NOPE NOPE NOPED out of there.
35  Non-Gaming / Political / Religious Nonsense / Re: I'm a former Jehovah's Witness, AMA! on: August 15, 2014, 08:15:24 PM

Quote from: Roman on August 14, 2014, 04:31:49 PM

Quote from: Eel Snave on August 03, 2014, 08:14:51 PM

It's funny: I thought I was going to be an atheist, but I don't feel that way. A lot of ex-JWs are atheists, though, just because of how they've been treated.

Come on over. The atheist waters great!  icon_wink

My brain says that atheism is correct, my heart says no. Either way, when God stuff comes up against science stuff, science stuff wins from now on.
36  Gaming / Console / PC Gaming / Re: Sierra Returns! on: August 09, 2014, 04:56:11 PM
I just want an updated and good Lords of the Realm. That's all I ask.
37  Non-Gaming / Off-Topic / Re: Books Read 2014 Edition on: August 09, 2014, 03:22:50 PM
I'll join in!


Murder in the Cathedral by T.S. Eliot
Crisis of Conscience by Raymond Franz
Escape from Camp 14 by Blaine Harden
I Am America (And So Can You!) by Stephen Colbert
Angler: The Cheney Vice Presidency by Barton Gellman
Good to Great by Jim Collins
How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
The Last Expedition: Stanley's Mad Journey Through the Congo
38  Non-Gaming / Political / Religious Nonsense / Re: I'm a former Jehovah's Witness, AMA! on: August 08, 2014, 09:03:25 PM
Thanks for the kind words, Fireball! I'm not looking for anything different right now. All of the wounds are a little too fresh for me to be into religion, so I'm just digging in to science and philosophy for a while, reading a ton.
39  Non-Gaming / Political / Religious Nonsense / Re: I'm a former Jehovah's Witness, AMA! on: August 06, 2014, 01:18:17 AM

Quote from: wonderpug on August 04, 2014, 06:49:03 PM

Is there a switch at age 18 or something? For his school years, he made friends like any other kid. The no birthday party thing was pretty much the only thing that made him stand out a bit. His JW parents were also super friendly and welcoming to all us non-JW friends.

Not really. In school, you're forced to be friends with other people. I was fairly normal in high school myself, but once school was over, I did nothing but preaching. Probably that's what happened to him too. That's my best guess, not sure.

Quote from: hitbyambulance on August 04, 2014, 08:40:14 PM

one of my aunts was super JW and sent my brother and i identical illustrated Bible Story kid's books (the ones with the painted illustrations... you know what i mean.) also forbid my cousin from playing Dungeons & Dragons with us, but we did it anyways. no judgement of JHWH came upon him for that crime, as far as i can tell. for a much later holiday, we received identical "Evolution... Let's Talk About It"-kinda books (which went unread, forever).

Oh yeah. Before this all went down, I started reading my son the Bible Story book, and then I realized: These stories are NOT appropriate for toddlers! That stopped that. Also, the evolution book is full of misquotes and misrepresentations, even making Carl Sagan look like a creationist at one point.
40  Non-Gaming / Political / Religious Nonsense / Re: I'm a former Jehovah's Witness, AMA! on: August 04, 2014, 06:37:33 PM

Quote from: wonderpug on August 04, 2014, 05:17:25 PM

Are JWs discouraged from interacting with non-JWs?  I had a good friend for most of my K-12 life who was a JW, and when he graduated high school he moved to NYC to the JW headquarters and pretty much cut off all contact with all of his friends.

Yup. That was the reason that I was starting to avoid this forum, for example. I feared I was getting too close to you bunch of heathens. We're frequently encouraged to look at non-JWs as "acquaintances" and not "friends." When I was in 2nd grade I even told a kid that I wasn't his friend because he wasn't a JW. If you have "worldly" friends you're kind of ostracized.
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