I’m a little baffled by this last bit. I have no problem with parent being concerned about their children and wishing to guide them, that’s what a good parent does. However, I learned about sex in the first grade, other children swore regularly, and violent movies were the in thing at my school. Not to mention that I watched a 2nd grader throw a snowball at a friend which inadvertently contained a shard of ice which severed his ear. All of this in the first couple years of school.
Well lets just say that my sons (ages 5-9) know about sex and have seen boobs. Some things I deem appropriate for them to watch some I don't. They have not seen Anal Bukkake Festival 6. Although I hear it's quite a sight to see.
Part of me being a (hopefully) good parent is that I'm involved in their lives in a major way: guiding, directing, protecting and exposing them to life when they are ready. I'm much more worried about my sons watching violence than I am about them catching sight of a boob. That said, my wife doesn't run around shirtless (at least while they're awake :wink:) and, given the choice, I'd rather they understand and respect the concept of privacy and modesty.
Violence, sex, and profanity are part of everyday life, part of our culture; to deny this to a child who, unless very young, has probably already seen worst seems not only impossible but very foolish.
Because they have or will see something that is wrong or inappropriate for them at a particular age does that mean I should give up trying to guide or protect them? I'm not following your use of the word "deny" here.