My wife has the type of personality that she can get along with anyone, and she is also pretty versatile in that she can head off with the girls to do girly things (pedicures, spa treatments, etc - wait, that sounds kind of like me
), but she can also sit down next to the boys and house some ass in Halo 2 MP or head to the bar with all of us and scream obscenities at the Philadelphia Eagles as they give us another season of false hope. Since I've known my wife, she and I have always been able to have mutual friends, not in the sense that we are known as a package deal, but as separate people. My wife can head out with our friends solo, and so can I, or we can head out together, but never is one's attendance contingent upon the other's. Our friends like each of us independently, they don't merely accept one because they're the spouse of the other. We're known as independent people who happen to be married. But, over the years, whenever I'd head out "with the guys", they'd always want me to bring my wife because she is a lot of fun and can hop right in as "one of the guys." And she's up for anything, whether it be heading to a strip club, or heading to a sports bar to play pool or air hockey. And because she is my best friend in the world, I never minded because one moment she's my wonderful wife, and the very next she's a buddy I'm housing at pool. Plus, I never was much of one to want to head out with just the guys, leaving the significant others at home. Until recently.
One morning a couple of friends of mine went with me to our local Eagles bar to reserve "our" table for the Eagles/Saints playoff game. We got to the bar when they opened at 9am, and the game didn't start until around 2pm. Our wives weren't planning to show up until around 1pm for the game, so we had some time to hang out together. For the first time in years
I realized just how much fun it can be to head out with just the guys, doing "guy stuff" (chatting it up with a hot waitress, jokingly lamenting married life, talking about cars, video games, home electronics, etc). It was really fun
. Not to say that I don't love my wife, because I adore her and could never imagine spending my life with anyone else. But even though I love my wife to death, sometimes a "break" is kind of nice. Gets me out of the house, gets us out of each other's hair, and when we see each other again that evening or later that day, we can tell each other about our respective days and then appreciate each other's company even more (we work together at the same company as well, so I don't even get a "break" at work - not to say that I need it, as we work very well together, but sometimes lunch with someone other
than your wife is fun........sometimes
Also a couple of my guy friends and I recently headed out to Buffalo Wild Wings for some wings and beer. Just the guys. Our wives weren't interested in wings, and so they suggested that we head out ourselves and they'd have some spaghetti at home. And it was again a really nice break for us to head out, talk about guy stuff, have a few beers, fire down some wings hot enough to eat through your stomach lining, and then head home to our loving wives. They actually appreciate the break, and we get a chance to be the knuckle-dragging, head-butting, bear-guzzling guys that we are.
But, then there is the time I get to spend with my wife without
our friends. Because we are very social people, we spend a lot
of time with our friends (during any given week, we see our friends at least 5 out of the 7 days). And sometimes it's nice to just spend a quiet evening with just my wife and no one else. Whether it be a nice candlelit dinner, or just relaxing on the couch watching a movie with our puppy by our feet. Or even folding laundry while chatting about the day. Yes, time with your significant other and
your friends is nice, but sometimes quiet time with just
your significant other is also nice.
My point? Appreciate the ability to spend time with friends without
your significant other, appreciate the time you spend with just
your significant other, and appreciate the time you spend with both your friends and
your significant other. You may not see it now, but a number of years down the road, what I have written here will resonate with you as if I could read your mind. Trust me.