Just kidding, lawyer man. Just kidding.
in this case, saying 'who' could lead to a few things happening.
1. everybody on this board is old enough to remember her will know how young you are.
2. knee-jerk outrage response implying you were being an asshat for asking a simple question sans vocal inflection.
3. an immediate post requiring a NSFW being added to the title.
let's all hope for either a speedy recovery/rumor dispelled or at least option 3 if she does in fact kick the bucket.