invite etiquette.....

[shaggydoug]

So last night, I'm playing GoW.....in Act 3 of the campaign in a particularly tense moment that I won't describe to avoid spoilers.   I see an invite from Jarrodhk and think...ok...I'll finish this off and go respond to that.  Well, it took me a while to finish it (just 1 more attempt syndrome...had to figure out the trick) and then at the end I went to look at the invite and it was gone. 

So....first to Jarrodhk....I apologize for not responding.  I had a blast the other night when we did actually play.

2ndly, what is the socially accepted behavior for invites?   Do you respond (positively or negatively) to every invite you get?   Or do you just ignore invites when you're in the middle of something?   I've never been in a position where I didn't actually know the people in my friends list in real life and I know how to respond to those people.  My friends list has gotten a lot bigger (note...not bragging here because it is still relatively small.......and I thank each and every one of you that have added me).   It seems like I could be getting a couple of invites a night as that has been the norm since GoW was released. 

- shaggy

[Lockdown]

I think it's a personal thing.  However, from gaming with different communities, you sort of have a different level of what's "accepted", depending on the community.

Here at GT - my impression has always been that the person being invited has no obligation whatsoever to respond if they do not plan on joining in.  No response translates to "Thanks for the invite, but I am not interested at this time."

That being said, quite often people will shoot me a voice message later saying something like, "Hey, got your invite, but I was busy doing such-and-such.  I hope we can hook up soon."

Or the short version.... Don't sweat it.   

[Knightshade Dragon]

The only time I won't pause for an invite is when I'm watching a movie.  If I'm watching a movie and forget to sign out, I don't want to be bothered.  

[Lockdown]

I hate when I do that.  You're all into this great scene, suspending the real world, totally engrossed...

BAM!

Little envelope on the bottom of your screen with that little noise it makes.

[DonD]

I'll usually respond (or just accept and join the game) unless I'm in a game where I can not realistically break off to respond without losing something or, like KD, I'm watching a movie.  Usually in that case, I'm not holding the controller and I'm too lazy to get it.

[shaggydoug]

Didn't the latest update add the option of turning off the bubble notifications while watching a movie?

- shaggy

[DonD]

I had heard that, but I didn't see any place to toggle that.

[Jarrodhk]

I wouldn't sweat any invites from me.  If you want, jump in!  If you're busy, no problem catch ya next time. 

It can be frustrating sometimes when you are looking for people to play with, you get 8 and then someone messages you saying they can't get in.  I always feel bad when that happens.  (which is a lot with GOW so far)

[PeteRock]

If I send out invites and don't get a response, I too read it as, "thanks but no thanks, maybe next time."  No problem.  Sometimes I get invites that I am unable to accept, either because I'm playing with someone else or because I'm involved in a single-player game.  I hope that others view my lack of response in the same manner, "thanks but no thanks, maybe next time," and I even sometimes send a note later that apologizes for my lack of respone and perhaps we can hook up in the future. 

[gellar]

If I send out invites and don't get a response, I too read it as, "thanks but no thanks, maybe next time."  No problem.  Sometimes I get invites that I am unable to accept, either because I'm playing with someone else or because I'm involved in a single-player game.  I hope that others view my lack of response in the same manner, "thanks but no thanks, maybe next time," and I even sometimes send a note later that apologizes for my lack of respone and perhaps we can hook up in the future. 

Same here.  Most of the time I don't respond to an invite is because I have the dog at my feet and don't want to drop the game and screw everyone else up if he decides to do something bad. Sometimes an adolescent puppy, no matter how well trained he may be, decides that he REALLY wants to chew or hump something he shouldn't.

gellar

[Calvin]

If I send out invites and don't get a response, I too read it as, "thanks but no thanks, maybe next time."  No problem.  Sometimes I get invites that I am unable to accept, either because I'm playing with someone else or because I'm involved in a single-player game.  I hope that others view my lack of response in the same manner, "thanks but no thanks, maybe next time," and I even sometimes send a note later that apologizes for my lack of respone and perhaps we can hook up in the future. 

Same here.  Most of the time I don't respond to an invite is because I have the dog at my feet and don't want to drop the game and screw everyone else up if he decides to do something bad. Sometimes an adolescent puppy, no matter how well trained he may be, decides that he REALLY wants to chew or hump something he shouldn't.

gellar

Not to mention you ignore messages the same way

[gellar]

If I send out invites and don't get a response, I too read it as, "thanks but no thanks, maybe next time."  No problem.  Sometimes I get invites that I am unable to accept, either because I'm playing with someone else or because I'm involved in a single-player game.  I hope that others view my lack of response in the same manner, "thanks but no thanks, maybe next time," and I even sometimes send a note later that apologizes for my lack of respone and perhaps we can hook up in the future. 

Same here.  Most of the time I don't respond to an invite is because I have the dog at my feet and don't want to drop the game and screw everyone else up if he decides to do something bad. Sometimes an adolescent puppy, no matter how well trained he may be, decides that he REALLY wants to chew or hump something he shouldn't.

gellar

Not to mention you ignore messages the same way

Well that's because I don't have a keyboard attached to my 360 and don't like typing with the stupid controller

gellar

[Calvin]

If I send out invites and don't get a response, I too read it as, "thanks but no thanks, maybe next time."  No problem.  Sometimes I get invites that I am unable to accept, either because I'm playing with someone else or because I'm involved in a single-player game.  I hope that others view my lack of response in the same manner, "thanks but no thanks, maybe next time," and I even sometimes send a note later that apologizes for my lack of respone and perhaps we can hook up in the future. 

Same here.  Most of the time I don't respond to an invite is because I have the dog at my feet and don't want to drop the game and screw everyone else up if he decides to do something bad. Sometimes an adolescent puppy, no matter how well trained he may be, decides that he REALLY wants to chew or hump something he shouldn't.

gellar

Not to mention you ignore messages the same way

Well that's because I don't have a keyboard attached to my 360 and don't like typing with the stupid controller
gellar

Well yeah noob, thats what voice messages are for!

[gellar]

If I send out invites and don't get a response, I too read it as, "thanks but no thanks, maybe next time."  No problem.  Sometimes I get invites that I am unable to accept, either because I'm playing with someone else or because I'm involved in a single-player game.  I hope that others view my lack of response in the same manner, "thanks but no thanks, maybe next time," and I even sometimes send a note later that apologizes for my lack of respone and perhaps we can hook up in the future. 

Same here.  Most of the time I don't respond to an invite is because I have the dog at my feet and don't want to drop the game and screw everyone else up if he decides to do something bad. Sometimes an adolescent puppy, no matter how well trained he may be, decides that he REALLY wants to chew or hump something he shouldn't.

gellar

Not to mention you ignore messages the same way

Well that's because I don't have a keyboard attached to my 360 and don't like typing with the stupid controller
gellar

Well yeah noob, thats what voice messages are for!

My headset is in the drawer under the TV, yo.  I don't keep it out unless I use it.

A place for everything and everything in it's place, and all that.

gellar

[Calvin]

If I send out invites and don't get a response, I too read it as, "thanks but no thanks, maybe next time."  No problem.  Sometimes I get invites that I am unable to accept, either because I'm playing with someone else or because I'm involved in a single-player game.  I hope that others view my lack of response in the same manner, "thanks but no thanks, maybe next time," and I even sometimes send a note later that apologizes for my lack of respone and perhaps we can hook up in the future. 

Same here.  Most of the time I don't respond to an invite is because I have the dog at my feet and don't want to drop the game and screw everyone else up if he decides to do something bad. Sometimes an adolescent puppy, no matter how well trained he may be, decides that he REALLY wants to chew or hump something he shouldn't.

gellar

Not to mention you ignore messages the same way

Well that's because I don't have a keyboard attached to my 360 and don't like typing with the stupid controller
gellar

Well yeah noob, thats what voice messages are for!

My headset is in the drawer under the TV, yo.  I don't keep it out unless I use it.

A place for everything and everything in it's place, and all that.

gellar

You shame me, sir

[gellar]

I used to be a slob.  Then the dog.  Now if it is not put away, it runs a risk of being chewed.  I am a much neater person now.

gellar

[Calvin]

I used to be a slob.  Then the dog.  Now if it is not put away, it runs a risk of being chewed.  I am a much neater person now.

gellar

See I don't like dogs though...

[papasmurff]

I agree with what has been said.  If you don't respond to the invite it is cool......  But before I send people invites I see what they are doing.  I normally don't invite people who are in movies but if you are in the same game and we are playing MP and have room, then ya you will probably get the invite.  I just wish that GoW had more room for people.

[Destructor]

I used to be a slob.  Then the dog.  Now if it is not put away, it runs a risk of being chewed.  I am a much neater person now.

My little kitten is the same way. I've already lost two PC headset/mic combo devices thanks to her.